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A healing practice to help you find relief from guilt and shame while releasing the deeper patterns and misbeliefs beneath them. Supports your nervous system in returning to emotional safety and truth. Especially supportive in Phases 3 and 4.
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Estimated Time Required: 25 – 40 minutes or more
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You Will Need: Your Healing Book, a writing instrument, and a safe, sacred space
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1. Set a Positive Intention for Healing
Write down your healing intention that includes the phrase for the Highest Good, along with anything that supports what you most want to experience.
2. Breathe and Be In Your Body
Use some natural, slow or somatic breathing.
3. Feel Your Feelings [Step 1]
Allow yourself to feel any guilt or shame that’s come up for you since your Rainbow One passed. Recall any moments when that came up naturally. Ask yourself:
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What am I feeling?
Where do I feel it in my body?
If it had a color, texture, or movement—what would it be?
Write down a name for your feeling form.
Example:
Black sticky shame spiral in my stomach.
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4. Embrace Your Feelings [Step 2]
Accept and welcome your feelings. Let go of any resistance to feeling them fully. You can say out loud or in writing to your feelings:
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I have so much time, space and love for you right now.
I see you, I hear you, I welcome you.
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5. Express Your Feelings [Step 3]
Give a voice to your feeling form. Write it down. Let is speak freely. Let it express without being censored or judged in anyway.
Now bring in curiosity—a loving, gentle curiosity about what’s underneath the guilt. Ask yourself:
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What belief am I carrying here?
When did I learn that I was responsible for another’s pain?
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Write down whatever you’re aware of.
6. Love Your Feelings [Step 4]
Offer yourself and your feeling form compassion, Love and caring. You can write your loving words down, or speak them to yourself silently.
Next ask your feeling form (even if you don’t relate to the following question at all):
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What do you need, in order to let go of being responsible for your Rainbow One’s death?
For example:
I need to know my Rainbow One is okay.
I need to know my Rainbow One loves me still.
I need to know that I did my best.
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Allow yourself to drop into your feelings to answer from this place. Let it speak or write freely.
Now ask your feelings:
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What do you need, in order to let go of being responsible for others in your life?
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Allow your feeling form to answer, uncensored, answering from the feeling not from your head. Ideally write it down.
Use the love of your Rainbow Ones and your rainbow sanctuary to give yourself what you need.
7. Share Compassionate Self-Forgiveness
Gently repeat these statements, completing each one in your own words. Do your best to share these statements with loving and compassion. Say them slowly. Let them land.
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I forgive myself for buying into the misbelief that…
I forgive myself for buying into the misunderstanding that…
I forgive myself for buying into the illusion that…
I forgive myself for judging myself as…
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Keep going, gently, until you feel a sense of stillness or lightness. There’s no rush. You can also say:
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I forgive myself for forgetting that I am lovable.
I forgive myself for how hard I’ve been on myself.
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Keep repeating these statements until you feel a sense of stillness or lightness. You can choose one sentence stem to keep repeating, or go through all four. There’s no rush. Say them over and over, until you feel the lift.
8. Claim Your Truth
Once you feel the energy shifting in some small or larger way, allow your truth to be received and voiced by you. Write this down.
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And the truth is…
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Let this keep flowing until you feel full and complete. And now allow your Rainbow One to share their truth with you:
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Allow the truth of your loving, both from your Huge Heart and your Rainbow One to fill you to overflowing.
9. Complete with Loving Gratitude
Amazing ❤️🔥 That’s Week 13 Complete 🏆 🎉 😁 🙌
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