Guided Experience 4 • Allowing the Waves of Grief [with Somatic Therapy]

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Guided Experience 4 • Allowing Waves of Emotion for Clearing and Renewal (A Guided Somatic Release)

Let this practice be about your experience, your feelings, your presence, your connection, rather than getting it “right.” Use my words as gentle guideposts and the analogies above if you get stuck. This experience supports emotional release and renewal, especially powerful in Phase 2.

Estimated Time Required: 20 – 30 minutes or more

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You Will Need: Your Healing Book, a writing instrument, and a safe, sacred space

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1. Set a Positive Intention for Healing

Write down a positive intention for healing including the phrase ****for the Highest Good. This helps guide your consciousness toward healing, and away from repression and recycling. If you have religious or spiritual beliefs, include any aspect that’s supportive for you. This could be a prayer or a meditation that helps you connect with your inner guidance.

A simple example:

Intention – to clear and heal as much as I can for the highest good.

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A more detailed example, including words that describe what you’d like to release, and what you’d like to experience:

I am here to heal, clear and release as much karma, trauma, negativity, and emotion as I can for the highest good. I am here to release sadness, my jaw pain and anything I no longer need. And I am here to feel at peace.

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2. Breathe and Be In Your Body

Use some natural, slow breathing, for at least a few breaths or more. Or use Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) or Release Energy Resistance (RER) from Guided Experience 3B • A Simple Nervous System Reset

3. Observe and Experience in Your Body

With eyes closed, take a minute or more to pay attention to what you’re experiencing in your body. You might be aware of soreness or stiffness in the body. You might be aware of sensations or emotions in certain places. Just observe and consciously accept and embrace whatever you’re experiencing. ******Consciously but silently let your body know that you are safe.

Remind your body that:

You are safe. While you have not always been safe to fully feel, you are safe now. I see you. I hear you. I love you. And it is safe to fully feel your feelings just now.

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You might also use an analogy of a loving embrace, to communicate to your body that it is safe, held and supported. You can touch your hand to your heart, or wrap your arms around yourself.

Acknowledge that you are the Huge Heart that holds and loves your humanity.

4. Focus on Your Emotions of Grief

You might like to pull up some photos or video of your Rainbow One. Vulnerably, and courageously let yourself connect to the feelings that have been triggered by the passing of your beloved animal.

Ask yourself and write down your answers:

How have you been feeling recently?

How do you feel right now?

You can use Reference: List of Emotions to help you.

5. Locate and Isolate Grief in Your Body

Often we are able to feel many emotions at once.

Continue to feel and answer:

What is the strongest feeling in your body right now?

Where in your body are you feeling it?

Examples:

Sadness in my stomach. Anger in my throat and neck. Gratitude in my heart. Anxiety up and down my arms.

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If this feeling had a color – what color would it be?

Is it dark or light?

A bright painful red, or a dark, murky, gross brown?

Is it opaque or translucent?

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Does your feeling have texture and movement?

Is it sharp and frozen, not moving?

Or sludgy and oozing around a little?

A hurricane of energy in all directions?

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It may initially feel like you need to “make up” the color, texture and movement of your emotions. Just go with whatever you “make up”. It’s not about “truth”, but connection and compassion.

6. Feel with Curiosity and Compassion

Feel the emotions and sensations you described above while being curious and compassionate like a loving parent to a small child. There’s really nothing for you to “do” here, but to allow your emotions to have their own way in your body. Keep letting go of what you “think” and continue to allow and experience the physiological sensations of your feelings in your body.

7. Wait for a Shift

Continue to feel until you feel even the slightest shift. Maybe you start breathing easier. Or your emotion or discomfort becomes just three percent less. Or you feel a subtle sense of lightness or calm. You can complete this process once you notice the shift, no matter how subtle. And you can continue if you want to. There may be greater clearing available.

8. Thank and Reward Yourself

Thank yourself for having the courage to feel. Feel gratitude for the fact that you completed this Guided Experience. Reward yourself for this act of great self-love and for honoring your grief. Treat yourself with something that feels supportive and celebratory.

Grief asks us to stop running from the body and return home to it.

The tears, the trembling, the tidal waves, they’re not proof of weakness, they’re proof of love. When we let grief move through us somatically, we discover that it isn’t here to break us. It’s here to break us open—into more compassion, more freedom, and more love than we ever thought possible.

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Amazing ❤️‍🔥 That’s Week 4 Complete 🏆 🎉 😁 🙌

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