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At first, it may feel hard to sense specific emotions of grief in your body. With practice, your ability to feel deepens, allowing pain to release more easily, while your habit of responding with self-compassion grows into one of the most powerful healing skills you can cultivate, a gift to your heart, body, and well-being.
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Estimated Time Required: 10 – 20 minutes or more
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You Will Need: Your Healing Book, a writing instrument, and a safe, sacred space
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1. Set a Positive Intention for Greater Self-Compassion
Write a simple intention for greater self-compassion, including the phrase for the highest good.
Example:
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My intention is to clear, heal, and release as much as I can for the highest good. I am here to release the sadness in my heart and open to deeper self-love and compassion.
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2. Allowing Compassion for Others
Think of someone or something you naturally feel deep compassion for, perhaps the beloved animal you are grieving, a friend, or a painful situation in the world. Close your eyes and picture them in your mind. Be curious about how they might be feeling, and allow your own inner experience of empathy and compassion for them. Notice how you feel in your body as you’re connected to them. Write down the best word or phrase to describe how you’re feeling.
As you allow yourself to feel in your body, also notice how you feel toward them. Reflect on your energy. Is it hard, harsh, and critical, or soft, supportive, and warm? On a scale of 1–10, where 1 represents harsh judgment and complete criticism and 10 represents soft, warm, compassionate support, mark where you are.
3. Allowing Self-Compassion and Acknowledging Resistance
Think of a moment when you recently needed comfort. This could be related to your grief or any emotional struggle. Close your eyes and reconnect with that moment. Remember how you felt at the time and allow yourself to feel that just now. Write down the best word or phrase to describe how you’re feeling.
As you allow yourself to feel in your body, also notice how you feel toward yourself in this situation. Reflect on your energy. Is it hard, harsh, and critical, or soft, supportive, and warm? Mark where you are on the same 1–10 scale.
Write down any insights you notice. Are you aware of your resistance to experiencing self-compassion? Are you aware of any difference between your ability to feel support and compassion for another, versus yourself?
4. Strengthening Your Self-Compassion
Bring to mind the same difficult moment when you needed comfort. Reconnect with the feelings in your body. Now, consciously choose to be as kind and supportive toward yourself as you can. Use the following three strategies to strengthen your self-compassion.
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Acknowledge the difficulty. Remind yourself: This is hard, and it’s okay that it’s hard. What you’re feeling is part of being human. You did nothing wrong. You’re simply moving through pain, and that pain deserves care.
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Imagine a loved one in your place. How would you support them? Offer the same warmth and understanding to yourself.
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Offer yourself a loving embrace. As the Huge Heart you are, wrap your arms around yourself. Say, I see you. I hear you. I love you. Embrace what you’re going through, offering yourself compassion amidst the challenge.
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5. Write Down Awareness
Pause and reflect.
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What are your personal keys to accessing self-compassion?
How do you feel after practicing self-compassion?
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6. Thank and Reward Yourself
Thank yourself for showing up for your grievealing. Feel your gratitude. Reward yourself for completing this experience. Treat yourself with something that feels supportive and celebratory.
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Self-compassion is the missing link in healing grief.
By meeting your pain with kindness instead of criticism, you’re rewiring your brain, softening your heart, and opening the door to transformation. The way your Rainbow One loved you is the way you can learn to love yourself.
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