We all have had experiences in our lives, where we were not seen, heard and loved fully.
It’s these experiences, particularly in childhood, that can trigger us to protect ourselves by armoring or closing our heart, so that further or future pain, disappointment, rejection and sadness is not felt.
The process below allows us to connect with these challenging memories, in a particular compassionate and loving way, that begins to release that method of protection: the copying mechanism that was created at that time, in service to clearing the ways you’re holding yourself back through protection and separation.
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<aside> ❤️🔥 First, Ask and Awaken to Love & Light: I also encourage everyone, before diving into any healing experience to first, slow down. Take some time to connect to your heart, your Loving. And consciously ask for the support of the Light / Source / Spirit and ask for the Highest Good of all concerned.
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Describe what’s challenging or limiting in your life. Describe it in as much detail as you can, and allow any emotions about it to come up as you share fully. This can work for almost any human limitation you find yourself WANTING to let go of, but feeling out of control in the moment to choose. For example: not speaking up / being defensive and bitchy to people / giving up, not believing in one’s self / not being able to follow through / being sarcastic and critical. It can also work for any challenge that’s going on.
Describe how you feel, inside of yourself. Focus on how you feel. You might feel many things, but focus on the strongest, and most challenging feeling. You might be aware of continuing to reconnect to wanting to describe or explain the outer challenge, but continue to come back to describing how you feel inside. Starting with “I feel…” can be a great start.
When was an earlier time that you felt this exact way? Describe that situation and let the ‘Younger You’ share freely and completely. Don’t think hard or try and figure this one out. Rather just keep feeling the feeling from Question 2… and be open to any moments from early in life just popping naturally and automatically into your mind. ‘Younger You’ might want to address a particular person, perhaps to yourself, or to the world or God.
What changed at that time? What did you start to do inside of yourself to cope with that challenges? What did you start to believe, in order to cope with that challenge? Let yourself answer from ‘Younger You’, and let yourself reflect on that time as fully as you can. Can you become aware of how you starting to protect and take care of yourself through some new behavior or belief? Can you see that this new coping mechanism was just trying to keep you safe and loved? Can you feel deep compassion and loving for how understandable it was that you reacted and coped in that way at that time? Can you see that this coping mechanism is also what’s holding you back right now?
Ok it’s time to Own and Forgive this pattern. Entirely. So again, it is powerful to remind yourself that it was NOT your fault that you reacted this way and created this coping mechanism. But until you take 100% responsibility for creating this pattern, you are powerless to own it, forgive it and release it. So can you take 100% responsibility for creating this pattern at that time? And are you willing to forgive yourself completely and let it go? Once you’re ready to let yourself off the hook, use the following methods to do so.
<aside> 🎓 Acknowledging, Honoring & Graduating the Coping Mechanism The part of you that is still running this coping mechanism deserves a freakin’ standing ovation. Yes this part is now what’s dysfunctional and what’s holding you back, but from the perspective in which it was created, this part has ONLY been loving, supporting, protecting and serving you for YEARS now… Years! This part of you deserves a standing ovation, a parade, a party, a profound and fitting honoring and graduation. Spend some time creating that honoring moment in your divine imagination. Now can you speak words of acknowledgement, honoring, and deep and heartfelt gratitude for how hard it’s worked for so long. Others might show up to also thank, honor and celebrate this part. Allow this to take place until that part in you that is running the coping mechanism feel so FULL, so great, so honored for all they’ve done that they naturally graduate, complete, and let go.
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<aside> ❤️ “I see you, I hear you, I love you.” Share “I see you, I hear you, I love you.” Let that love, compassion and understanding dissolve anything that’s holding on to the past.
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<aside> ❤️🩹 Self-Forgiveness Statements “I forgive myself for buying into the misbelief that…” Once you feel a little more still, or silent within, say or write down your truth using the statement: “The truth is that…” Anchor at least 3 statements of truth. But feel free to keep letting them flow – saying them out-loud or writing them down.
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<aside> 🌺 The Ho’oponopono “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank-you. I love you.” Read more about the Ho’oponopono below.
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