Your job is now to talk kindly, lovingly and compassionately to these feelings.
I find it easiest to talk to these feelings as if they were small children, around 5 years old. This helps me be compassionate, and unconditionally loving.
It can be very powerful to start with the words: “I hear you. I see you. And I love you.”
“Healing is the application of loving to the places that hurt.” Ron and Mary Hulnick
It is your loving, sweetness, kindness, compassion and unconditional loving for these feelings inside that releases them. So however you can express or extend your loving to these parts inside of you – get creative in your imagination and do that.
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Ask your feelings – What do you need? And then do your best to give yourself THAT experience!
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Perhaps your heart needs a hug – so you imagine that. Or perhaps your sinking sad stomach needs to be prized, and recognized, and given a party for the great job that it does. And so you imagine a party with cheering and celebrating for it and how it’s been doing a great job in your life.
Let go of who you think you are, or think you aren’t… and really allow yourself to completely love these parts within.
I’m usually aware that I’m complete with the above process once my energy Lightens: a shift inside from heaviness and contraction, to Lightness, expansion and joy.
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<aside> 🧠 Optional: Complete this experience with Statements of Self-Forgiveness and Truth. This statement helps to rewire the brain from fight, flight, freeze and fawn, back to health and wholeness.
“I forgive myself for buying into the misbelief that… And the truth is that I am…”
Learn more about Self-Forgiveness Statements
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