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When we’re grieving, especially after losing a beloved Rainbow One, it’s easy to think the pain we’re feeling is just about them. And yes, a big part of it is. But loss doesn’t exist in isolation. It touches all the parts of us—especially the parts still holding old pain, old beliefs, and old coping mechanisms.
Grief cracks us open. And in that opening, we often come face to face with patterns we’ve carried for years—beliefs like:
These thoughts can feel devastating. But they’re not permanent truths. They’re misbeliefs—protective stories we told ourselves to survive pain, confusion, and fear.
Self-forgiveness is how we begin to lovingly rewrite those stories.
Not from force.
Not from pressure.
But from compassion.
You don’t have to understand how this works for it to work. You flip a light switch every day without knowing the full mechanics of electricity, right?
This is the same.
You don’t have to believe or disbelieve. Just try it. Let this be an experiment in loving yourself more deeply than you ever have before.
Get out of your head and into your body. Let go of what’s “supposed” to happen. And simply show up. As you are.
The rest will unfold.
If you’re wondering why these practices matter so much—why they’re not just “nice ideas” but actual healing tools—here’s the deeper truth:
The core of trauma isn’t just in what happened to us. It’s how our nervous system learned to respond to life as a result.
When we experience trauma, especially in childhood, our brain often gets stuck in patterns of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. The amygdala stays on high alert. The nervous system stays dysregulated. We stop trusting the world, our bodies, and often ourselves.
And for many of us, this doesn’t just affect one part of life—it becomes the lens we live through.
But healing is possible.
And in my personal and professional experience—working through my own trauma, and now walking alongside thousands of clients—there are two essential keys that create real change:
This is how we rewire our nervous system from fear and shame back to love and trust.
This is how we reprogram the emotional and neurological pathways that were shaped in trauma.
These two practices—statements of self-forgiveness and the Ho’oponopono prayer—create a powerful path home to the Love, health, and wholeness that has always lived within you.
You don’t need to force healing.
You just need to give yourself the conditions where healing can naturally happen.
These next experiences are here to help you do exactly that.
Let’s begin.
This is a somatic healing practice—meaning, it lives in the body, not the mind.
Use this practice as a gentle guide. Don’t worry about getting it “right.” Just let yourself feel, and follow what comes naturally.
This experience uses the Week 6 [Experience] 4-Step Feeling for Healing™ Guide. Feel free to revisit that chapter if helpful.
Use these steps as gentle guideposts. Go more for the heart of the exercise than the details.
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Set a Clear Intention At the top of a fresh page in your Blue Healer, write an intention that includes the phrase “for the Highest Good.” Examples: “I am experiencing healing and self-forgiveness, for the Highest Good.” “I’m ready to release what no longer serves me and return to Love, for the Highest Good.”
Center Yourself Close your eyes and take three slow, deep breaths. Let your shoulders soften. Place a hand over your heart.
[Step 1] Feel Your Feelings How Are You Feeling? To access unresolved emotion, simply start by noticing what feels most challenging right now. Is it missing your Rainbow One? Or something else? Close your eyes and gently connect to that challenge. Observe what’s happening in your body. Let yourself feel—deeply, fully, without needing to fix anything.
Just asking them helps shift you from thinking to feeling. If answers don’t come, make them up. Let whatever shows up be enough.
[Step 2] Embrace Your Feelings The next step is to fully accept and welcome your feelings. Sometimes, what we’re feeling is actually resistance to feeling. So right now, simply let go of that resistance and embrace whatever is here, as fully as you can. Say out loud or in writing to your feelings:
“I have so much time, space and love for you right now. I see you, I hear you, I welcome you.”
[Step 3] Express Your Feelings
Think of your emotions as little beings with something important to say. They don’t need fixing—just acknowledgment.
Start by creating a Feeling Form from Step 1. For example, if you felt sadness in your heart and it felt like a swirling dark blue fog, you might name it Sad Blue Foggy Heart.
Now, give that feeling a voice. Let it speak freely—dramatic, messy, whatever comes. No censoring. No judgment.
It might feel strange at first, but this isn’t about making sense—it’s about release.
Keep going until you feel a natural stillness inside, a sense that the feeling has said what it needed to say.
[Step 4] Love Your Feelings with the Gift of Self-Forgiveness
In this final step, your job is to offer your Feeling Forms the deepest love and care possible—unconditionally and with compassion, and now to offer them the biggest gift of all – Self-Forgiveness.
Start by offering your feeling form gentle, loving words. You can say or write this down:
I hear you. I see you. And I love you.
Continue sharing (saying or writing down) any loving, compassionate words that your huge heart wants to express to this pain within.
Now we’re going to use statements of self-forgiveness to both find and release our conscious and unconscious limiting beliefs. Gently repeat these statements, completing each one in your own words.
Say them slowly. Let them land.
I forgive myself for buying into the misbelief that…
I forgive myself for buying into the misunderstanding that…
I forgive myself for buying into the illusion that…
I forgive myself for judging myself as…
Keep going, gently, until you feel a sense of stillness or lightness. There’s no rush.
Say them over and over, until you feel the lift.
You can also say:
I forgive myself for forgetting that I am lovable…
Claim Your Truth and Rewire Back to Love Once you feel the energy shifting, speak some loving truths to yourself:
Thank and Reward Yourself Thank yourself for having the courage to dive in so deeply. Genuinely say ‘thank you’ to yourself for completing this experience, and ask yourself what reward would feel self-honoring and empowering?! And now go treat yourself with what feels supportive and celebratory.
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