Healing the Guilt: Your Practice for This Chapter

This week’s practice is a variation on the 4-step Feeling for Healing™ process you’ve already used—but focused specifically on guilt.

You’ll feel it in your body.

You’ll give it voice.

You’ll welcome it, love it, and forgive it.

Then, you’ll do something beautiful and sacred:

You’ll speak the Ho’oponopono prayer to your Rainbow One.

And you’ll let them say it to you.

💧 I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

Let yourself take time.

Let yourself really feel them forgiving you.

Let yourself receive that love—again and again—until something shifts inside.

You can also imagine holding them.

Saying the words gently, from your heart to theirs.

And hearing them say them back.

This practice isn’t about “letting yourself off the hook.”

It’s about finally releasing the illusion of fault… so you can reclaim your freedom, your joy, and your wholeness.

Because you don’t need to be punished.

You need to be loved.

Experience 13A • Feeling for Healing™ Guilt & Shame

Use my words below as guide posts, and go more for the heart of the exercise, rather than following the details.

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Estimated Time Required:

20 – 30 minutes +

You Will Need:

Your Self-Healing Book. Writing down your answers to all questions below will support you in gaining greater awareness and experience.
If you’ve set up your Self-Healing Sanctuary from Week 1 [Experience] Book & Space great. If not just do this wherever you can relax and disconnect from the world. </aside>

Set a Clear Healing Intention
- Write a positive intention for your healing at the top of your page. Be sure to include the phrase “for the Highest Good.” Something like “I am healing and releasing guilt and shame for the highest good.” Or “I am opening to deep compassion, forgiveness, and truth—for the highest good.”
Somatic Breathing to Ground in the Body Close your eyes and take a deep breath in through your nose, filling your lungs completely. Hold for a moment, then exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat this a few times. With each exhale, release any tension, and with each inhale, invite in softness. Allow your body to settle into the present moment. Turn your awareness inward.
[Step 1] Feel Your Feelings Allow yourself to feel any guilt or shame that’s come up for you since your Rainbow One passed. Recall any moments when that came up naturally. You can also say silently these statements to see if they unearth any resonant feelings: “I should have done more for... I feel guilty for… I feel embarrassed about… I feel ashamed about… “ Close your eyes and loosely allow yourself to be connected to what’s most challenging to you right now, while observing what goes on in your physical body. Allow yourself to FEEL your feelings, deeply, completely, right now.
1. What am I feeling? [write it down]
2. Where do I feel it most in my body? [write it down]
3. If this feeling had a color, texture, or movement, what would it be? [write it down]
[Step 2] Embrace Your Feelings The next step is to fully accept, embrace and really welcome your feelings of guilt and shame to be with you. Relax and release any resistance to completely embracing your feelings. Say out loud or in writing to your feelings:

“I have so much time, space and love for you right now. I see you, I hear you, I welcome you.”

If resistance arises—and it often does—acknowledge it, too. Resistance is just a protective mechanism. It deserves to be seen and accepted as well:

I see you. I appreciate you for trying to keep me safe. But I no longer need you to block this feeling. I am strong enough to feel it now.

I have NOT always been safe to feel my emotions fully, but in this moment, I AM completely safe.
[Step 3] Express Your Feelings and Be Curious
1. Now, give your guilt a voice. Let it speak freely on the page. Be raw. Be honest. Allow it to be an inner child. Be soft and compassionate with yourself as you allow the immature and very small voice of your inner child to share fully in writing.
2. Now bring in curiosity—a loving, gentle curiosity about what’s underneath the guilt. Ask yourself:
  - “What belief am I carrying here?”
  - “Where did I first learn that I was responsible for everyone else’s pain?”
    
    You might be surprised what surfaces.
    
    Write as much or as little as you need. Cry if you need to. Let yourself feel.
[Step 4] Love Your Feelings
1. Now imagine your Rainbow One is with you. See their loving face. Feel their energy beside you.
2. Let your Huge Heart speak to your guilt or shame with compassion:
  
  I hear you. I see you. And I love you.
3. Continue sharing (saying or writing down) any loving, compassionate words that your huge heart wants to express to your inner child. Allow your Rainbow one to share with your inner child too.
4. Next ask your guilt or shame:
  
  What do you need, in order to let go of being responsible for your Rainbow One’s death?
  
  Again allow yourself to drop into your feelings to answer from this place. Let it speak or write freely.
5. Now ask your feelings:
  
  What do you need, in order to let go of being responsible for others in your life?
  
  Allow your feelings to answer, uncensored, answering from the feeling not from your head. Ideally write it down.
6. Use the love of your rainbow ones and your rainbow sanctuary to give your inner child what you need.
[Rewire] Share Compassionate Self-Forgiveness
1. Rewire all connected past experiences with deeply compassionate statements of Self-Forgiveness. Gently repeat these statements, completing each one in your own words.
  
  Say them slowly. Let them land.
  
  I forgive myself for buying into the misbelief that…
  
  I forgive myself for buying into the misunderstanding that…
  
  I forgive myself for buying into the illusion that…
  
  I forgive myself for judging myself as…
  
  Keep going, gently, until you feel a sense of stillness or lightness. There’s no rush.
  
  You can also say:
  
  I forgive myself for forgetting that I am lovable…
OPTION: Ho’oponopono
Thank and Reward Yourself Thank yourself for having the courage to dive in so deeply. Genuinely say ‘thank you’ to yourself for completing this experience, and ask yourself what reward would feel self-honoring and empowering?! And now go treat yourself with what feels supportive and celebratory.

Experience 13A • Healing Guilt & Shame with the Ho’oponopono

Use my words below as guide posts, and go more for the heart of the exercise, rather than following the details.

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Set a Clear Healing Intention
Somatic Breathing to Ground in the Body Close your eyes and take a deep breath in through your nose, filling your lungs completely. Hold for a moment, then exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat this a few times. With each exhale, release any tension, and with each inhale, invite in softness. Allow your body to settle into the present moment. Turn your awareness inward.
Bring Your Rainbow One into Your Rainbow Sanctuary Allow yourself to be with them. Feel them. Connect with them. Allow whatever feelings, memories, experiences come up for you.
Giving the Ho’oponopono to Your Rainbow One
Receiving the Ho’oponopono from Your Rainbow One
Thank and Reward Yourself Thank yourself for having the courage to dive in so deeply. Genuinely say ‘thank you’ to yourself for completing this experience, and ask yourself what reward would feel self-honoring and empowering?! And now go treat yourself with what feels supportive and celebratory.

Amazing ❤️‍🔥 That’s Week 13 Complete 🏆 🎉 😁 🙌

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